Napalm187 wrote:Trash- What do you do? Are you a sociologist? Social worker? Of course their are crazies in the stands. Ever been to a youth baseball game? Youth football game? It's just the way it is. People can come up with white papers, studies and all sorts of stats...but people are still going to be yelling, having unrealistic expectations with their kids and not acting with logic or reason. I don't say a or make any noise. They can't hear you or they shouldn't be able to hear you. Maybe an occasional yell of "move your feet" is ok. I've seen for 30 years all sorts of crazy, but most people are fine. But their is a sizable minority of stupid people in this country. It is what it is. On a bad day, you could say 80% of the population is brain-dead. Ever been on 494? My point, why all this arm-chair analysis for a very easy topic to read and analyze? Not everyone is a genteel, logical person. In fact, most people are the opposite. Pugnacious, rude, narrow-minded, myopic and they base everything off their own experiences, instead of being able to put themselves in the shoes of others to see different points of view.
The elite minds and bodies of yesteryear were all "pushed" at a young age. Da Vinci, Mozart, FDR, JFK, Lemieux, Babe Ruth, MJ, Monet, John Tavares...etc. etc. if you find a kid with "elite" talent in any endevour...they should get the most outta that talent as possible.
Like Bobby DeNiro said in "A Bronx Tale"...."The worst thing in life son, is wasted talent".
Yes, there are crazies in the stands of all youth athletic events. As I said, I have been to hundreds and hundreds of youth events, with my focus being on parent behavior. My observation is that it is not a rare occurance. Let's make it a rivalry game, or even better, a C Pee Wee "playoff game", a 14U girls playoff game. I go as an innocent by stander. I watch CROWDS of parents act like idiots....let me think of a more clinical word......misbehave. Red faces, screaming, thinking and believing they have a better view of the blue line from the corner than the linesman standing on it, and then losing their mind over an offside call.
I can't go along with "it is the way it is". I believe that it is unacceptable and that we can slowly but surely effect change. If you have seen one 12 year old child told by a parent that they do not deserve a ride home because they didn't put out a good effort, it should cause you to get involved. It's heartbreaking. I have seen and heard similar statements too many times. I don't mean to claim ultimate knowledge, but I do claim to have focused my observations on it for longer than I care to admit. To a fault, I go to youth games and watch parents and coaches, while others watch the game. I have witnessed not a couple, but many parents approach a game official after a game, and not to get a rule interpretation but to act out on their emotions from a youth hockey or baseketball game. Often the official is a child themselves. Look folks, it may not be you, but it's high time we stopped ignoring what whe know is going on.
Regarding your comment on some of the most gifted people the world has ever known, I would simply replace the word "pushed", with the word "guided". When "guiding" a gifted child, their age needs to be taken into account. I simply believe that the "push" is too much, too soon. Really? Was Babe Ruth "pushed" at an early age? Was Monet "pushed" to paint? Can you really push an artist? I'm not sure, and can't dispute that, but I will dig in on the research.